Soul Of Louisville Speaks

Near the end of 2007, I had an idea. Give African American Women chance to speak to Black men anonymously. Say whatever is on your heart. The idea was, some brother may read it and learn what he needs to have the healthy relationship that would bless his life in multiples. This is what some sisters had to say:

Here is what one sister had to say!

The most captivating thing I would say to men is to love and honor your wives. I also would tell them not to take us women for granted. I think we get in the routine of family life and the daily issues that go along with this, and we forget about the how much we need to cherish and respect each other as human beings.

A Second Sister Had a Lot to Say:

Black men. I love you. I love the way you walk, your sexiness, your ability to rise above racism and stereotypes to succeed despite the odds against you.

I love the way that, when you are pursuing me, we are able to communicate and laugh with each other. I wish that the communication would last forever, but my experiences have been that once you have me, then you shut down and begin to throw up defenses. My desire is that you would realize that I am your best friend, your lover, your confidante, your help mate. I have the ability to be all of those things to you. It is not necessary that you get one person to fulfill each of these needs. I want to feel that same love from you.

Physical touching is important. I desire a man who likes to touch and is not ashamed to hold my hand in public.

I desire a man who is honest and who knows the importance of maintaining his integrity. This would make it possible for us to have a relationship where no matter what happens, the two of us would know that we have each other's back when the chips are down. No person or thing could come between this bond, and both of us would have peace of mind and never feel that we are all alone in this journey called "life".

I desire a man that is financially responsible so that when we grow old, we might be able to retire without having to stop going to the doctor, stop getting our prescriptions filled, and never getting to go on vacation.

Most importantly, my man MUST be spiritually intact. By this, I am not suggesting that he be perfect, and not make mistakes. But he must know God as his Lord and Savior. He must know who he is and whose he is.

I believe it was Maya Angelou who said that you can tell a man's character by how he reacts when he is on a plane flight and hiis luggage gets lost and does not make it to his destination. This sounds simple, but think about it.

God bless Black men everywhere!

Near the end of 2007, I had an idea. Give African American Women chance to speak to Black men anonymously. Say whatever is on your heart. The idea was, some brother may read it and learn what he needs to have the healthy relationship that would bless his life in multiples. This is what some sisters had to say:

The First Sister Said,

No! am taking care of myself if you get the drift.....

A Second Sister had this to say,

Men of all the human race, teach your son's to put God first in their lives, if you know the word of God. Teach them to respect themselves, so that they will respect others. Not only teach them but show them, leading by example is real and not a game to be played by anyone. Show them how to love, how to be a man that everyone will respect. If you show them hate, they will show hate, if you teach them love, they will love, If you teach them how to be a player, they will be a player. Give them the gift of life, a great example of who God made them to be. Be Blessed, and love to you all!

A Third Sister shared this,

Seek a relationship with God BEFORE seeking a relationship with a woman. Love God first. He will create a passion in your heart for a loving, respectful, lasting relationship with one woman; and a true heartfelt commitment to marriage and family.

Near the end of 2007, I had an idea. Give African American Women chance to speak to Black men anonymously. Say whatever is on your heart. The idea was, some brother may read it and learn what he needs to have the healthy relationship that would bless his life in multiples. This is what some sisters had to say:

The First Sister said...

"Get serious - get married - be faithful. Live, love, laugh with your wife.

Life is too, too short to live in a box.

Find the right partner, ask for guidance, pray, and never give up. You are never too old...or too anything...for someone to care for you. I was 55 years old when I married my dream man. All the rest were just thrills.

Remember, the body will not work as well nor look as good as you think it does now. Get the woman that cares forever....not based on looks but based on the heart. Repect her and never take her for granted. Keep the romance alive (not sex) but a loving relationship.

There is no age gap either---we are 15 years apart. Do not feed into society's woes when you find the right person and your heart knows it. Thanks for reading....remember, life is short---be smart....be caring...be faithful."

Another Sister said...

"PAY ATTENTION!!! If you can do this the rest is butter!"

The Next Sister said...

" I'm not always right and you're not always right. Just be honest and if we truly listen to each other and respect each other, we just might make it."

Finally Another Sister said...

"I am looking for a strong respectful brother who values life and family. A man that honors a woman, and can appreciate her contributions to this world. A man that can assure me that I am safe in his care and wants to explore life with me. A man that knows love and understands love by first loving himself, that way he has room to love me...hopefully unconditionally. What I ask from this man is nothing of which I am not willing to give in return, in fact, I'm ready. My question is, are you?"

~TO THYSELF BE TRUE